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Topic created by thongjock
on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 06:47
thongjock said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 06:47...
Why do you all use poppers?
what, beyond a momentary buzz, do all you all get out of a popper?
Saggy Balls said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 12:37...
I use them during self gratification. The combination of porn + poppers can be an awesome experience. In a matter of speaking, it takes the experience to a new level. And they definitely enhance my orgasm.
Nitritespecialist said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 13:15...
I rarely use them for porn, because I rarely view porn and the second I take a hit, it's over...I cum. Poppers can make an image seem more erotic suddenly and they can create a surreal, laser focused awareness of an erotic scene, as either a spectator or participant.
In my book, good poppers are ideal for taking big ones, presumably in either orifice. With the right poppers...no dick is big enough.
I cannot stress strongly enough however that "good" poppers are somewhat subjective and so far I personally have not been able to source any good ones in the USA.
PJ said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 14:04...
It has often been said that porno and poppers is amazing. As if you are actually participating in the act, and each thrust and sound becomes even more realistic. I am not a great porn fan, although the advent of sites like onlyfans seems to be offering a more real experience. I find some of the plots in commercial productions rather laughable, pizza delivery, house repairs, pool boy, and so on. The dialogue also puts me off and sounds rather ridiculous. Talking dirty is one thing, but the script writers for these movies seem fixated on phony talk, really nobody talks like that.
R. Don said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 15:18...
Once you start wanking with poppers you can't stop mate, it's a proven fact....
Saggy Balls said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 16:55...
That's the problem for me now R. Don. Wanking without poppers just doesn't cut it anymore.
Billy said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 18:03...
Here's my perspective having just started binging hard on poppers after a three year break. (And thanks to Artisanal Cleaners for my being able to find the good stuff).
I'm a real addict. If I look back at the past 10-15 years of my life it goes like this:
1. Full on recovery - Sex Addicts Anonymous, Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, weightlifting, Bikram yoga, cycling. Spending 5+ hours a day on addiction recovery and the pursuit of mental and physical good health. Still no sex life but in good shape.
2. Full on addiction. Poppers, booze, caffeine, femdom clips, anal toys. Anxiety experienced as energy. Grief deferred. Like a ship trapped in a bottle.
3. The worst state is if I'm not doing any recovery activities but I'm not binging either. Just dry drunk. Consumed by anxiety and depression. 2020 was the epitome of this. (It was only after my second Covid jab that I picked up poppers again).
As for what's behind it all - I'm straight, I think, but effectively impotent. I should have been circumsized or had a frenulectomy in childhood. I was also teased in the lockerroom about the size of my cock after school sports. So poppers and SPH clips are a way of replaying the trauma and attempting to take control, when as a child I was powerless.
Also I'm 43 and I have a lot of regret that I didn't fix my problems sooner. I was cute as a teen and young man and missed out on a lot of 90s/00s sex. Popperbating stops me feeling that grief. But also I'm not mature enough to engage with what might actually be available to me if I tried dating now - a middle aged woman probably with kids in tow.
Billy said on Mon, 12 Jul 2021 at 19:05...
When I say 'I look back", I don't mean this was the order of it. I meant 1 is preferable, 3 worst. Addiction better than dry drunk.
Also I never got into the sissy stuff, thankfully, as I know I am a man!! Seems to be the younger generation that are into the gender bending.
Toby said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 03:56...
A common issue encountered (also my experience) is that once you are used to poppers, it is hard to bate to porn without them. It would just feel underwhelming and not worth the bother.
Poppers send you to a super horny place. It's the text book case of instant gratification.
Toby said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 03:58...
Also, poppers combine well with other substances. Weed + poppers, or Alcohol + poppers are a great combo in my opinion.
Billy said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 11:41...
Agreed with you on both, Billy.
A good bottle of red wine and a good bottle of n-butyl are the perfect combination for me. Or a few beers. I think the sugar is part of this, as well as the alcohol removing inhibitions.
I did try weed and poppers a couple of times but it was just too much. What I like about good poppers is that I can be doing my household accounts or on the phone to a family member 15 minutes later and feel totally fine. That wouldn't be the case if I was stoned.
Nitritespecialist said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 12:37...
I think everyone has their own genetic/social predisposition to any drug. For me, because I prefer being sober and feeling normal 99.9% of the time, drugs that have lasting effects do not appeal to me. I like poppers because I have control over duration of effects down to as little as 30 seconds. When I'm done, I'm done....don't have to wait for the effects to wear off. I would NEVER want to walk around for 20 minutes feeling high as a kite on poppers. I only want to feel the effects when I'm ready to focus on a particular sensation/scene.
Billy said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 13:37...
I once tried MDMA and porn. Didn't work. Just felt an enormous feeling of empathy and compassion towards the performers and the life-choices they'd made!
Toby said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 15:53...
I have never tried MDMA, LSD or shrooms. They scare me somewhat, losing grip on reality to such an extent is frightening. I'm worried that I will have a bad acid trip.
Solomon said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 16:44...
"replaying the trauma and attempting to take control"
@Billy: you have had any therapy? May I recommend rather than replaying you consider CBT., that's not cock and ball torture...I mean Cognitive Behavior Therapy. If you find the right therapist, who specializes in this specific field then it can work miracles. Re-living, replaying, is one school of thought, in my view it sucks. Don't think you are alone in having your life messed with by childhood trauma, it is very normal.
Billy said on Tue, 13 Jul 2021 at 20:08...
Solomon, thank you for your compassionate post.
I had 40 hours of psychosexual CBT around 2014-2015. Also went through the 12 Steps with a sponsor who was formerly the head of a chain of treatment centres (yet sponsored me for free, working his own programme).
I did EMDR also, trying to neutralize any childhood traumas (which with an adult's perspective were fairly mild - being teased about my dick size after sports lessons; not bonding much with my father).
I also went a lot to SAA meetings. I'd recommend that fellowship, especially if like me you are straight so not at risk of acting out.
I enjoy listening to AA speaker tapes. Those guys understand addiction. "When I can control it, I don't enjoy it. When I enjoy it, I can't control it."
But in sobriety although I achieved fitness and a greater engagement with the world, I didn't find a replacement for the sexual pleasures (however squalid), I'd had in addiction. So, here I am again, sniffing from a brown bottle.
Here in the UK, Covid has given me a justification for staying home. Though I didn't use poppers at all until a fortnight after my second vaccination.
Ironically I'm doing something to the detriment of my immune and respiratory systems. But it's safer and more pleasurable than travelling on the tube.
Solomon said on Sat, 17 Jul 2021 at 18:56...
Howdy, EMDR: how did that help you? I would also say that practitioners of CBT vary; I think finding the right therapist is key, that is just a question of trial and error. Any medications have been recommended?
Billy said on Sat, 17 Jul 2021 at 19:49...
Thanks for your reply, Solomon. I'd say the reason the EMDR wasn't totally useful is that I didn't have enough self-knowledge to be able to provide the correct information for the sessions.
I told the therapist that I believed I was repressed homosexual, because I'd been very close to my mother, not bonded with my father, had avoided any opportunity for sex with girls, and had masturbated anally since early teens.
However this was incorrect! Only one thing makes you homosexual which is being same-sex attracted. Which I was/am not.
A more accurate (and unfortunate) description would be that I'm repressed and impotent heterosexual! I have frenulum breve that shouuld have been operated on in childhood, and was teased about my dick size (it's actually fine), and so on. So my sexual impulse was blocked. The anal masturbation was to thoughts of being sexually inadequate with women, I wouldn't be thinking about men. That's why femdom + poppers was later such a trap for me.
I wouldn't be open to taking any medication e.g. anti-depressants, anti-anxiety pills, etc, for lots of different reasons. I'm sure I'd find a doctor who'd prescribe me them but I'll steer well clear.
I do think viewing my issue as being depression/anxiety is useful, though. Because then there are many things I can do to try to build a rewarding life Trying to be useful to others would be a start.